*But I have tried the “new type of dating” since I haven’t dated since 1979 and married in 1980, so I have signed up on 5 dating sites, some free, most not -JDate since I am Jewish, Match, Our Time for those over 50, OKCupid wihich is free and not Zoosk, which I am thinking I won’t sign up for a paid subscription.Yes, I am lonely, and do love men, even though my husband hurt me deeply.The 35-40-year-old women who ARE ready for marriage, unfortunately, are roundly ignored by the men they desire – their 35-40-year-old peers.These women are youthful and find themselves far more attracted to men in their 30’s than their 40’s. You say you’re looking for a woman in her mid-30’s. But if none of them are looking for you, your wheelhouse is going to be women in their late 30’s to early 40’s: Find the people who want you.So, I booked one of those time share deals–pay 0 for three nights, and in return I have to go through a time share presentation. That was really our only option for the budget, because the resorts charge outrageous prices that time of year. When I was 18 years old I leased apartments to work my way through school. If it wasn’t arguing about something it was a crying fit about a dead dog. The next year, we visited the family for a short time just before Christmas. The drama was something that my father was so used to he simply said, “You know ____ always has to show their ass.” And that look on my son’s face? I can’t begin to describe it accurately, but it was one of disturbance, pain, anxiety, confusion, and sheer fright. And at that moment I made up my mind: It was one thing when I had to take the abuse but it was a whole other can of worms when I had to see my son get hurt.I guess it’s because they can–apparently we ain’t the only cats who avoid family at Christmas. I would volunteer for the Christmas Eve shift every year just so I had a reason not to go to my parents’ house any earlier than I had to. It was because of a certain other person in our family who had to make a scene. One of the most frustrating things about this whole situation is that my parents–my father in particular–is an enabler.I am told that women want to settle down and have kids, etc., but their actions seem to be to the contrary.At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.
Once I had a child, though, I stopped traveling at Christmas.
My husband and my marriage has been over a little over a year after he walked out and feel that I want to start dating again.
I keep my figure up, weigh 106 lbs, 5’3″ and put on my makeup and dress appropriately for my age of 57.
The lesson to all of you younger readers: take your love life seriously when you turn 30, instead of waiting until you’re 35 or 40. I do know when I was in my early 30’s, anyone in their 40’s seemed old to me! It’s been my experience that I seem to get alot of emails from the 50 and over crowd.
If you look at the top of the page under my name, you’ll see two short sentences: Understand Men. I don’t think it’s a stretch to say that if men understood women, they’d do better with women.