Bcos me doesn’t know, I curiously asked a lady once, “ma, since you boldy state in your profile you are married, why are you here na”…she change am for me o…
Your friends and family have warned you that he’s a player, or a loser, or a (enter your favorite derogatory term for a bad boyfriend here) but you’ve written them off, believing that you’re going to be the one woman that can change him into the perfect partner. Find what makes you happy before you’re in a relationship, then find someone to share that happiness with. What this really means is that they’re looking for dysfunction so that they have the drama in their lives that they subconsciously crave.
And as much as misery loves company, misery plus misery doubles the misery. If you’re thinking to yourself right now, “The only thing I’m interested in is meeting a man,” then you’re in the deep.
As I’ve said before, the best way to meet the right Mr.
After all, you’ve both spent a lot of time, money, and energy to travel some distance to meet. Moreover, don’t let that great build-up of excitement convince you to hop into bed together either. Don’t spill your guts about your ex or your loneliness, and avoid jumping into bed with someone just because he or she is there.
If you do, you may very well break up shortly after the weekend, and one or both of you could get hurt. Spend time with friends rather than someone too tempting to resist. An adult might profess to be in love when he or she desperately wants to love and be loved.
If any of the above sound like you, then you need to start looking inward and making some changes to your life in order to get yourself ready to be with someone else. Once you have these licked, you will be ready for a real relationship.
This was one of the biggest problems I had in my own dating career, as I pretended to be a skier or a big golf fan when in reality I hadn’t even had an interest in either until I was attracted to a guy who did.
If you find that you’re often trying to change something about yourself thinking it will make you more attractive to the guy you just met, then you are, like I was, lacking in self-esteem and confidence in yourself.
Whether you’re male or female, it’s best to maintain your friendships and family ties, and keep a healthy, balanced amount of activities with those people, even when you’re dating someone special. Understand the comments in context; factor in the person’s state of mind before responding.
Remember, your romantic mates will come and go before you finally settle in with a long-term partner. Be respectful, positive, and polite, but keep realistic expectations about your friend and the relationship.