I have seen men destroyed by it (not to say women aren’t too, I guess I’ve just met more divorced men in my work with guys…) In many cases, when a guy gets married, he’s doing it for you.Most guys don’t care whether or not there’s a legal document that says you’re married.Every man has heard countless stories about men getting screwed in divorce settlements.Now I know that there are lots of counter-stories where women have gotten screwed too, but guys don’t typically hear those stories.It’s OK if you’re feeling impatient at the moment, but I would highly encourage you to try and put your feelings aside for a moment and try to just appreciate him and empathize with where he is.Then talk to him and let him know what’s been on your mind and how you feel.In fact, this fear makes many guys avoid marriage like the plague…
Personally, my criteria for getting married is: Other than those reasons (and I would need to have all 3 be true), I would not get married. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t date a girl long term to see where it goes, but unless I’m at a point where those conditions are all true for me, I wouldn’t marry yet.
If you believe that your marriage will be everlasting, there’s nothing to worry about.
In fact, that’s the point of the prenup: It gives both of you the ability to relax and never have to worry about anything ending horribly if things don’t work out.
The problem is, there are many considerations that guys have to make that you need to consider too. Personally, I don’t plan on getting married until I’m ready to start a family.
When you can understand why a guy might have reservations to getting married (or at least, might not be motivated to get married), it will help you communicate better and ultimately get you to a place where you may both decide it’s time for marriage. That’s just my personal view and I’m not suggesting or projecting that anyone else should share it.